# M. Scott Peck - The Road Less Traveled (Highlights)  ## Metadata **Review**:: [readwise.io](https://readwise.io/bookreview/50622045) **Source**:: #from/readwise #from/kindle **Zettel**:: #zettel/fleeting **Status**:: #x **Authors**:: [[M. Scott Peck]] **Full Title**:: The Road Less Traveled **Category**:: #books #readwise/books **Category Icon**:: 📚 **Highlighted**:: [[2025-04-17]] **Created**:: [[2025-04-19]] ## Highlights ### 扉页 - Delaying gratification is a process of scheduling the pain and pleasure of life in such a way as to enhance the pleasure by meeting and experiencing the pain first and getting it over with. (Loc 122) ^878588496 - So it is when we love children; we spend time admiring them and caring for them. We give them our time. . (Loc 168) ^878588497 - The feeling of being valuable—“ I am a valuable person”— is essential to mental health and is a cornerstone of self-discipline. It is a direct product of parental love. Such a conviction must be gained in childhood; it is extremely difficult to acquire it during adulthood. (Loc 193) ^878588498 - If we feel ourselves valuable, then we will feel our time to be valuable, and if we’ feel our time to be valuable, then we will want to use it well. (Loc 199) ^878588499 - The financial analyst who procrastinated did not value her time. If she had, she would not have allowed herself to spend most of her day so unhappily and unproductively. (Loc 200) ^878588500 - With this internal sense of the consistent safety of the world, such a child is free to delay gratification of one kind or another, secure in the knowledge that the opportunity for gratification, like home and parents, is always there, available when needed. (Loc 217) ^878588501 - To the contrary, they perceive the world as dangerous and frightening, and they are not about to forsake any gratification or security in the present for the promise of greater gratification or security in the future, since for them the future seems dubious indeed. (Loc 227) ^878588502 - In summary, for children to develop the capacity to delay gratification, it is necessary for them to have self-disciplined role models, a sense of self-worth, and a degree of trust in the safety of their existence. (Loc 229) ^878588503 - The solution to the problem represented gratification to her, but she was unable to delay this gratification for more than a minute or two, with the result that her solutions were usually inappropriate and her family in chronic turmoil. (Loc 274) ^878588504 Move slowly - Problems do not go away. They must be worked through or else they remain, forever a barrier to the growth and development of the spirit. (Loc 290) ^878588505 - To willingly confront a problem early, before we are forced to confront it by circumstances, means to put aside something pleasant or less painful for something more painful. (Loc 302) ^878588506 - I can solve a problem only when I say “This is my problem and it’s up to me to solve it.” (Loc 322) ^878588507 - When those with character disorders are in conflict with the world they automatically assume that the world is at fault. (Loc 367) ^878588508