# Greg Lukianoff - The Coddling of the American Mind (Highlights) ![rw-book-cover|256](https://img1.od-cdn.com/ImageType-100/1523-1/{6BB8B25D-7056-4870-BE17-D0B5E9920531}Img100.jpg) ## Metadata **Review**:: [readwise.io](https://readwise.io/bookreview/41893830) **Source**:: #from/readwise #from/kindle **Zettel**:: #zettel/fleeting **Status**:: #x **Authors**:: [[Greg Lukianoff]] **Full Title**:: The Coddling of the American Mind **Category**:: #books #readwise/books **Category Icon**:: 📚 **Highlighted**:: [[2024-06-29]] **Created**:: [[2024-06-29]] ## Highlights ### Epigraph - Prepare the child for the road, not the road for the child. (Loc 64) ^739755071 #favorite ### Part IV: Wising Up #### Chapter 12: Wiser Kids - It was foolish to think one could clear the road for one’s child before the internet. (Loc 4042) ^739755074 - You cannot teach antifragility directly, but you can give your children the gift of experience— the thousands of experiences they need to become resilient, autonomous adults. (Loc 4045) ^739755075 - The most important thing they can do with that time is to play, especially in free play, outdoors, with other kids. (Loc 4047) ^739755076 - Each month, ask them what tasks or challenges they think they can do on their own— such as walking to a store a few blocks away, making their own breakfast, or starting a dog-walking business. (Loc 4052) ^739755077 - Print out a “Let Grow License” like the one below, 7 then send your kids out into your neighborhood with less fear that they will be detained by busybodies who might call 911.8 (Loc 4068) ^739755078 - Parents can get an accessible overview of CBT from reading Dr. Leahy’s book The Worry Cure. Also, Freeing Your Child From Anxiety, by Tamar Chansky, 13 is recommended by the Beck Institute, 14 which is another great resource for cognitive behavioral therapy. (Loc 4124) ^739755079 #further-reading - For more information and some easy mindfulness exercises for parents and children, see The New York Times “Mindfulness for Children” guide, by David Gelles, 21 and Cognitively-Based Compassion Training from the Emory-Tibet Partnership. (Loc 4138) ^739755080 #further-reading - For kids in middle or high school, find the TED Talk titled “On Being Wrong.” 24 (Loc 4159) ^739755081 - Two hours a day seems to be a reasonable maximum, as there does not appear to be evidence of negative mental health effects at this level. (Loc 4251) ^739755082 - Read Twenge’s book iGen (Loc 4259) ^739755083 #further-reading