# Kelly McGonigal - How to make stress your friend (Highlights) ![rw-book-cover|256](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/RcGyVTAoXEU/maxresdefault.jpg) ## Metadata **Review**:: [readwise.io](https://readwise.io/bookreview/30331100) **Source**:: #from/readwise #from/reader **Zettel**:: #zettel/fleeting **Status**:: #x **Authors**:: [[Kelly McGonigal]] **Full Title**:: How to make stress your friend **Category**:: #articles #readwise/articles **Category Icon**:: 📰 **URL**:: [www.youtube.com](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=RcGyVTAoXEU) **Host**:: [[www.youtube.com]] **Highlighted**:: [[2023-07-21]] **Created**:: [[2023-07-24]] ## Highlights - People who experienced a lot of stressbut did not view stress as harmful were no more likely to die. In fact, they had the lowest risk of dying of anyone in the study, including people who had relatively little stress. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h5vmhdtmyz2b6bfz33peyxrz)) ^566941360 - And normally, we interpret these physical changes as anxietyor signs that we aren't coping very well with the pressure.But what if you viewed them insteadas signs that your body was energized,was preparing you to meet this challenge? ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h5vmqypxp4nhnswnr5m9g630)) ^566941694 - And when oxytocin is released in the stress response,it is motivating you to seek support.Your biological stress responseis nudging you to tell someone how you feel,instead of bottling it up.Your stress response wants to make sure you noticewhen someone else in your life is strugglingso that you can support each other.When life is difficult,your stress response wants you to be surrounded by people who care about you. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h5vnk77f26e4qbag6wfhaq8t)) ^566949046 - Caring created resilience. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h5vnnm7rvfq1h7t35wx2wmbh)) ^566949190 - How you think and how you actcan transform your experience of stress.When you choose to view your stress response as helpful,you create the biology of courage.And when you choose to connect with others under stress,you can create resilience. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01h5vnphm0aaaxpjfydhwwvw23)) ^566949225 #keypoint