# Brené Brown - The power of vulnerability (Highlights)  ## Metadata **Review**:: [readwise.io](https://readwise.io/bookreview/27068321) **Source**:: #from/readwise #from/reader **Zettel**:: #zettel/fleeting **Status**:: #x **Authors**:: [[Brené Brown]] **Full Title**:: The power of vulnerability **Category**:: #articles #readwise/articles **Category Icon**:: 📰 **URL**:: [www.youtube.com](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iCvmsMzlF7o&feature=youtu.be) **Host**:: [[www.youtube.com]] **Highlighted**:: [[2023-04-30]] **Created**:: [[2023-05-07]] ## Highlights - Shame is easily understood as the fear of disconnection. Is there something about me that, if others know or see it, I won't be worthy of connection? ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01gz7zjj7fk0md72ybycg84sem)) ^518704759 - That's what this comes down to: a sense of worthiness. People who have a strong sense of love and belonging have this belief—that they are worthy of love and belonging. Those who struggle for it don't. That was the only variable that separated the two. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01gz7xrsnsqd7qdfvzaedvvnf8)) ^518695941 - What they had in common was a sense of courage. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01gz7zqnzn1atr9t3qgmeff1sd)) ^518705586 - So, these folks had the courage to be imperfect. They had the compassion to be kind to themselves first, and then to others. As it turns out, we can't practice compassion with other people if we can't treat ourselves kindly. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01gz7zrvzyd18cwvgqv51pq51g)) ^518705691 - They were willing to let go of who they thought they should be, in order to be who they were. You have to do that for connection. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01gz7zt68t8jwk1bfrszwace51)) ^518705730 - They fully embraced vulnerability. They believed that what made them vulnerable made them beautiful. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01gz7ztrnn7p74ct32bxy6yj8e)) ^518705961 - You can't numb those hard feelings without numbing the other affects, our emotions. You cannot selectively numb. So when we numb those, we numb joy, we numb gratitude, we numb happiness. And then we are miserable, and we are looking for purpose and meaning. And then we feel vulnerable. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01gz7zy0ma7d08143qjs4saycx)) ^518706159 - Let me tell you what we think about children. They're hardwired for struggle. When they get here, when you hold those perfect little babies in your hand, our job is not to say, "Look at her, she's perfect." My job is just to keep her perfect, make sure she makes the tennis team by fifth grade and Yale by seventh grade. That's not our job. Our job is to look and say, "You know what, you're imperfect and you're wired for struggle but you are worthy of love and belonging. ([View Highlight](https://read.readwise.io/read/01gz7zzqk2htc1s59277pa5t39)) ^518706704